8 Questions to Ask Your Aging Loved One

Becoming a caregiver for an older relative can be a role that evolves over time or is one that is thrust upon you due to a health crisis. However it comes about, all caregivers will find themselves having to reassess the situation from time to time as their loved one’s needs change. When busy, fatigued, frustrated or overwhelmed by a sudden health crisis, it becomes easy to feel you must make decisions too quickly. 

FAye_and_Dick.JPGPart of being an effective caregiver means having a true picture of the caregiving situation from both your perspective and that of your loved one and having the right information to make the right choices. It is important to take the time to honestly assess your situation, and don’t wait for a crisis to do so. Achieving a workable balance between caregiving and all your other responsibilities, while providing adequate care to your loved one, is the goal.  Here are some questions to help you assess your situation.

8 Questions to Ask Your Aging Loved One

Many of these questions are best answered in conversation with your loved one. You may not answer these questions alike and perceive the situation differently. The conversation may be uncomfortable to start, but only through an honest and open dialogue can you move forward.

  1. Has there been a change in quality of life for your loved one over the past months or last year? For example, are they able to get out and be social with friends? Has he or she stopped engaging in a favorite hobby? Is driving a problem?
  2. Can he or she manage housekeeping and doing laundry independently?
  3. Has there been a change in functional abilities? For example, hearing, eyesight or walking unassisted. Do they now need to use a cane or walker?
  4. Can your loved one take a shower independently?
  5. Are there any signs of memory loss?
  6. Is your loved one able to manage their medications? Taking medications as prescribed can be critical to your loved one’s overall health.
  7. Can your loved one keep up with paying the bills and other financial matters?
  8. What is your greatest concern at the moment in caring for your loved one?

It’s difficult – yet very important – to figure out the level of care your loved one needs. Finding the answer will require an honest and honoring conversation with your loved one. An open and honest conversation is the best way to determine the level of care your loved one needs, and the questions listed above will help.

These questions are a starting point for discussion. If you can uncover how your loved one feels about their living situation, you will be that much closer to identifying solutions that could help.

If you’re nervous about asking these questions of your loved one, watch the video below. Our “Difficult Conversations” program might make this tough conversation an easier one to have.


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There’s no pressure, just information. With a few key questions and a brief discussion, we can help you determine the best of the many options open to you.